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>One of the many great things about children, if you're not a total heartless bastard of course, is that having them really sharpens your mind as to what's important and what's not.

Why do parents think popping out a kid gives them some mystical wisdom? Maybe it just gives you one thing to focus all you energy on and suddenly that feels really important?



The most charitable response I can think of is that "popping out a kid" (or adopting) immediately shifts you out of the center of your own universe. It's a profound change of perspective for most people.


I used to think like this. I have two kids and one more on the way.

Setting aside the emotional part of the equation, having kids _is_ very taxing on your time and energy. It forces you to prioritize like never before. And that shows in your work. You are forced to learn how to focus on bigger-picture issues because there's no time for bullshit anymore.

To reply directly to the OP: if there is an OSS project on Github that is really important, your green graph will stay green. If its not important, it won't stay green and it won't matter anyway.


OP here. If being jarred from a pathological mindset by a major life event counts as "mystical wisdom," guilty as charged.

Cancer would probably have the same effect, but I prefer having kids. To each his own.


Its more like a crash course on putting other before yourself, which can for sure adjust ones world view.


Why do you think your opinion has any chance of validity on this matter unless you have existed both without and with a kid? This is like people bashing Apple without having ever used an Apple product, or who have merely played with the neighbor's Apple product


Wait, they don't have a right to an opinion? I mean, sure, call them wrong, but to say they're not allowed to express a thought?


Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but that doesn't mean unfounded opinion has to be respected or borne just because.

Too many things people say are "just because I think so" without much thinking going into why or how they came to that conclusion. So, maybe calling out baselessly opinionated people is ok?

As an aside, seems like the response was in the same tone as the parent's comment.


I agree that the tone is the same in both cases.

>So, maybe calling out baselessly opinionated people is ok?

Of course it's okay. But call them out by saying they're wrong/baseless/uninformed, not by dismissing their "right to an opinion".


I read it as: "your opinion is wrong because you don't seem to have the requisite experience".

And, in such cases, I don't think people can be allowed hide behind the "right to an opinion". If you think about it, this is the source of "alternate facts".

But, hey, that's just my opinion :)


Right, incorrect wording. I reworded it.




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